24481 The Compassionate Friends Brochure.indd
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24481 The Compassionate Friends Brochure.indd
HOW TO TO HELP HELPA HOW HOW TO HELP AA GRIEVING PARENT PARENT GRIEVING GRIEVING PARENT Grief Grief is is aaa natural naturaland andnormal normalreaction reactionto to Grief is natural and normal reaction to loss. loss. Grief Grief is is aaa physical, physical,emotional, emotional, loss. Grief is physical, emotional, spiritual and psychological spiritual and psychological response;itititis spiritual and psychological response; response; isis neither neither aaa sign sign of ofweakness weaknessnor noraaalack lackof of neither sign of weakness nor lack of faith. Grief is painful, confusing and faith. Grief is painful, confusing, and faith. Grief is painful, confusing, and isolating, isolating, and and lasts lastsmuch muchlonger longerthan thanour our isolating, and lasts much longer than our society recognizes. Bereaved parents are society recognizes. Bereaved parents are society recognizes. Bereaved parents are more likely to cope with their grief in a more likely likely to to cope cope with with their their grief griefin inaa more healthy way when they receive healthy way when they receive healthy way when they receive continuing continuing support supportfrom fromfriends, friends, continuing support from friends, relatives, co-workers and relatives, co-workers and employers. relatives, co-workers and employers. employers. ••• •• •• •• There There are areno nomagic magicwords wordsto totake takeaway away There are no magic words to take away the pain. “I’M SO SORRY” is the pain. pain. “I’M “I’M SO SO SORRY” SORRY” isisreally reallyall all the really all é s, or trying to that can be said. Clich é s, or trying to that can be said. Clich that can be said. Clichés, or trying to state state something somethingpositive positiveabout aboutthe thedeath, death something positive about the death will the situation and will will minimize minimize the situation and will not minimize the situation and will not not be helpful. helpful. be helpful. JUST JUST BE BETHERE THERETO TOLISTEN. LISTEN.Allow Allow JUST BE THERE TO LISTEN. Allow the bereaved parent to express the bereaved bereaved parent parent to to express expressthe the anger, the anger, anger, pain, disbelief or guilt they may be disbelief or or guilt guilt they they may maybe be pain, disbelief feeling. feeling. feeling. Let your genuine genuineconcern concernand andcaring caring Let your your genuine concern and caring show. show. Be Be available available to listen, run errands, help availableto tolisten, listen,run runerrands, errands,help help with other children, make a meal, or with other other children, children, make make aa meal, meal,or or whatever else seems necessary at the whatever whatever else else seems seems necessary necessaryatatthe the time. time. •• Avoid judgements of any kind. Avoid Avoid judgements judgements of of any any kind. kind. •• Remember the child’s birthday, or Remember Remember the the child’s child’s birthday, birthday,or or anniversary of death with aa card, a anniversary of death with card, anniversary of death with a card,aa phone call or a visit. Let the parent phone call or visit. phonethat callyou or aaremember visit. Let Let the the parent parent know too. know know that that you you remember remember too. too. “We “Weneed neednot not “We need not walk walkalone, alone, walk alone, we weare are we are The The The Compassionate Compassionate Compassionate Friends”. Friends”. Friends”. WHENA CHILDDIES DIES WHEN WHEN AACHILD CHILD DIES THE THE THE COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS // / COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS LES COMPATISSANTS LESAMIS AMIS COMPATISSANTS LES AMIS COMPATISSANTS CONTACTS CONTACTS CONTACTS Louise LouiseBérubé Bérubé Louise Bérubé (613) (613)424-4205 424-4205 (613) 424-4205 Eileen Eileen& AndrewBond Bond Eileen &&Andrew Andrew Bond (613) 692-4521 (613)692-4521 692-4521 (613) Arthur Cordell Jean JeanDavis Davis Jean Davis (613) 832-1007 (613) 233-0098 (613)832-1007 832-1007 (613) Janice Janiceand andBarry BarryEddy Eddy Janice and Barry Eddy (613) 424-1765 (613)424-1765 424-1765 (613) Pheroza Merchant Susan Susan Mannion SusanMannion Mannion (613) 839-0219 (613) 267-7171 (613) (613)267-7171 267-7171 E-mail: [email protected] E-mail: E-mail:[email protected] [email protected] Website: www.tcfottawa.net Website: Website:www.tcfottawa.net www.tcfottawa.net TCF Ottawa gratefully acknowledges TCF TCFOttawa Ottawagratefully gratefullyacknowledges acknowledges financial support from financial financialsupport supportfrom from The Community Foundation of Ottawa The Community Foundation The Community FoundationofofOttawa Ottawa Charitable Organization No: 86493-2520-RR0001 Charitable CharitableOrganization OrganizationNo: No:86493-2520-RR0001 86493-2520-RR0001 An self-help, Aninternational international self-help, An international self-help, non profit organization, nonprofit profitorganization, organization, non offering friendship, offeringfriendship, friendship, offering understanding, grief understanding, grief understanding, grief education and educationand and education hope for the hope hopefor forthe the future to future futuretoto all bereaved parents allallbereaved parents bereaved parents OTTAWA VALLEY // OUTAOUAIS OTTAWA VALLEY OUTAOUAIS OTTAWA VALLEY / OUTAOUAIS CHAPTER CHAPTER CHAPTER 31 Maplehill Way 3131Maplehill Way Maplehill Way Ottawa, Ontario Ottawa, Ottawa,Ontario Ontario K2C 3H1 K2C K2C3H1 3H1 In our lives we must all learn to deal with the death of friends and family, as well as our own mortality. Few of us, however, know the particular devastation that comes with the death of a child. We expect our children to outlive us, to be a continuation of our own lives. The shattering of this expectation is unique and complex and cannot be likened to any other loss. THE COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS began in England in 1969 after two families whose sons died in the same hospital found they could support each other in a special way. These parents, with Rev. Simon Stephens, founded the society of the Compassionate Friends. In 1977, Joan and Bob Martin established the first Canadian chapter in Winnipeg. MEMBERSHIP is open to any bereaved parent regardless of their child’s age or cause of death. Bereaved siblings (sixteen years or older) and grandparents are also welcome. There are no membership dues. Donations are voluntary and tax receipts are issued. TCF has no religious affiliation. “Grief becomes a tolerable and creative experience only when love enables it to be shared with someone who really understands.” Rev. Simon Stephens, TCF Founder OUR PURPOSE is to aid in the positive reconciliation of grief and foster the physical and emotional health of bereaved parents and their surviving children. Aims of TCF are: • To offer support and friendship to any bereaved parent regardless of age, race, creed or financial status. • To provide meetings where feelings and emotions can be shared in an atmosphere of trust, empathy, and confidentiality. If parents prefer, they can just listen. • To provide information about the grieving process through our newsletter, programs and library. • To listen with understanding and provide “telephone friends”. • To provide contact with bereaved parents who have worked through their grief and found fresh hope and strength for living. • To communicate with professionals involved with bereaved parents. Personne ne comprend la douleur d’un parent qui a perdu un ou plusieurs enfants par la mort comme un autre parent dans la même situation. C’est une douleur incomparable à une autre. Le but des Amis compatissants du Canada est d’apporter un soutien émotionnel à tous les parents endeuillés qui vivent ce cauchemar. Il entretien l’amitié, la compréhension, l’éducation sur le deuil et l’espoir pour le futur. Cette organisation internationale de groupe d’entraide de toutes dénominations est sans but lucratif et il n’y a aucun frais. “Nous ne sommes pas seuls, nous sommes les Amis compatissants”.